Thursday, April 18, 2013
Today's post is going to be slightly more personal than usual and definitely more rant-like. I just had a very unpleasant phone conversation with someone I was hoping to interview and it left me feeling quite upset. Basically, the man I spoke with was very unhelpful and short with me, and made me feel like a big dink for having *disturbed* him with my phone call.
People are rude to me all the time, and I'm sure that most people are rude/have to deal with rudeness on a daily basis, whether it be at work or at school or even among friends and family. I realized how sad it is, though, that I'm actually so shocked when someone is genuinely nice to me. It's as if friendliness and politeness are so rare that they feel like a gift that I'm not deserving of, if that makes any sense.
Traveling this winter helped to put a lot of things in perspective for me. Some people were rude to us, sure, but I was blown away by how genuinely caring people were to me, a stranger. People opened their homes to me, cooked for me, and went out of their way to make me feel comfortable - and they didn't know me at all! Their actions are more than I can say for some people, including some of my friends.
So traveling helped me realize that there are some genuinely nice people in the world, but that doesn't change the fact that a lot of people are serious d-bags. Sometimes life sucks, for whatever personal reasons, and people are lonely, and dealing with their own problems and trying to solve them. Nobody needs to have a big dose of mean piled onto all of that.
If you're a person who is being rude, maybe you need to think about why it is you are being impatient with people or purposefully mean. Does acting that way make you feel good about yourself, or bad? I know that I went through a period where I was short with everyone around me, and I was really unpleasant to be around. But looking back now, the reasons are obvious. I was in a bad situation and my life was consumed by it - any other interactions were simply over what I could process and I immediately resorted to impatience because I just couldn't deal. But that was a huge sign, that I didn't see at the time but that I am able to realize now. If something in your life is making you feel so negatively that you are taking it out on other people - GET RID OF IT. Whether it is your job, or that you're studying something you don't like, or whether your friends or significant other are the problem (as they were in my case) - just purge the negativity from your life. You will feel significantly better because whatever was bothering you won't be bothering you anymore, and because you will have the capacity to genuinely interact with other people in a positive way.
If someone is being rude to you - GET RID OF THEM. You don't need someone who is going to treat you like dump. If someone is going to put you down, they obviously don't care about you, no matter what they might say. If a stranger is mean to you, don't let it get to you. Today, I wanted to tell the man I spoke to that he was a real so-and-so, but I thanked him for his 10 seconds of time and hung up the phone and carried on with my day. He could benefit from evaluating what is making him so grumpy, but in the mean time, I'm not going to let his problems influence how I'm feeling about myself today.
"You attract what you put out there" is such a spot-on quote and this photo has been the background on my laptop for a while. It is so incredibly true. If you're going to be rude to people, you're inviting people to be rude to you in return. If you think very little of yourself, you are inviting someone into your life who will probably treat you like you are worth very little. If you walk down the street with a smile, maybe someone will smile back at you. Maybe you'll make someone's day. Or maybe you'll make people wonder what has you so happy, and make them think about their own life. You may as well be positive and hope it rubs off on someone else. You might even meet someone who falls in love with you because of that genuine smile, but I can almost guarantee that you're not going to meet the love of your life if you're frowning up the place. If you don't meet the love of your life, at least you'll be treating yourself well and making yourself happy in the process.
I guess my point is this: it's normal to feel down sometimes, and it is normal to be a grouch sometimes if something is bothering you. But you just never know what your actions will cause another person to feel or do, so be kind. Don't be unnecessarily rude and don't take other people for granted. Get rid of the people that bring you down (don't literally "get rid" of them but don't make them your priority) and focus on the people who treat you with understanding, respect, and compassion. If your actions don't rub off on someone else, at least you'll be living a life of positivity and that is the best thing you can do for for yourself.
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
It's been a rough few months for my skin. With cold winter temperatures and too many plan trips and public transportation rides, my skin is really dry but also oily and prone to bad breakouts. I have rosacea (localized on my cheeks) and it is a difficult problem to deal with, especially when the rest of my face being the opposite and quite oily. Cleansers and hot water make my skin feel dry and tight, so I have to strategically cleanse and moisturize my cheeks differently than the rest of my face. I also workout -(ie get sweaty) a lot and am just awful at showering immediately afterward, so that doesn't help in the breakout department!
I've been a fan of the Effaclar Purifying Foaming Gel for a couple of years now. It leaves my skin feeling super clean without feeling too dry and it smells almost like lilacs. I decided to add some more Effaclar products to my routine because lately the cleanser alone doesn't seem to be doing the trick and I seem to be breaking out worse than usual. I use La Roche-Posay Rosaliac AR and a prescription cream on my cheeks but I've started using the Effaclar Mat on the rest of my face and the Effaclar Duo on specific spots. I'm really loving both at the moment, as the moisturizer really is mattifying and the treatment is great at clearing up breakouts. And both of these products smell like lilacs too - swoon!
I've only been using the products for a few weeks but I haven't had an issue yet, like I have with other products *ahem Origins Checks and Balances* and have been seeing results. Obviously these products may not work for other people, but they're working for me right now! I think I might do a kind of 'favourites' post/video about my most loved skincare/beauty products, and I'm definitely going to include the cleansing gel as one of my all-time favourites.
I've also been meaning to sit down and film a proper Europe (but more like London) haul with the souvenirs, beauty products, and clothes that I bought while traveling - I guess I should get on that sooner rather than later but work has me swamped at the moment so it will have to wait. I kind of feel uneasy making haul videos too as I don't want to come off like a braggart or sound *superficial* or something like that. I do genuinely enjoy watching them but I feel strange making them - does anyone else feel this way?
Monday, April 8, 2013
|All from - you guessed it - chapters. Far too addicted.|
What makes you feel better on sick days?
Friday, April 5, 2013
So Chapters is one of my favourite places to go on a shopping day. It's a Canadian bookstore chain that also carries accessories, homeware pieces, stationary, and gift cards. I walked in yesterday and fell in love with the colourful wallets, jewelry and scarves on display. Talk about perfect for spring! They also had a bunch of other *spring* things, like these chevron pillows, and the cutest TEA tea cups. I love tea and have a weird affinity for different fonts, so I think I'll have to get myself one of these! They also even have children's clothing and I just had to snap a pic of a little rain coat with pirate-dogs, treasure chests, and anchors on it. If they had had it in my size, I would have bought it right up!
And of course no trip to Chapters is complete without
a look through the book aisles a passion tea lemonade. Yesterday Kelly and I went to Starbucks so I could work on some stories that I am writing on a tight deadline. She didn't have any work to do so she got to spend the time poke-battling and reading The Walking Dead Compendium One. Kind of jealous, I won't lie.
Speaking of The Walking Dead, my mum just informed me that there are novels about the governor and Woodbury, which I have to read now that I know they exist. My obsession with The Walking Dead is a bit extreme now as the third season was insane! I had a knot in my stomach during every episode and I am really excited to see how the fourth season pans out.
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
I have a confession to make. Ok. Here goes ... I'm addicted to nail polishes.
My love of nail polishes started when I was about 8 or 9 and got my first *grown up* nail polish - a clear formula with little metallic red glittery heart shapes inside. It was from Gap and it was my favourite thing for the longest time. I may even still have it somewhere, even though it is long expired, and I wish I could find something like it today!
For the past couple of years (after quite a love affair with black nails) I have been utterly obsessed with any type of pastel/bright/dare-I-say-milky nail polish formula that I can find. I have a selection of just about every shade of blue known to mankind, and I still seem to be able to pop a new nail polish or two into my basket on most shopping trips.
These two polishes are my absolute favourites right now. I don't even have words for how much I love them. Cute colours, super pigmented, quick drying AND they last for longer than a week without chipping. Really, what other nail polish can boast all of that?! Overall, Barry M nail paints are just the best that I've tried. Blue Moon, Mint Green and Baby Pink are all on my summer nail colour wishlist!
What are your favourite nail polish brands and shades?